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driving with maps

When the eldest turned 16 he received a key chain and a Thomas Guide for our area. He came to know his map book as a delivery driver for a Thai restaurant.

Two and a half years later when the middle turned 16 our parents gave him his own key chain, and the eldest gave him a brand new Thomas Guide. The middle is the most like our dad. His natural sense of direction and ability to know his way around probably meant his map book was a little less used.

And the following year when I turned 16, our parents presented me with my key chain, and the middle gave me my own Thomas Guide.

I don’t remember explicit lessons in map reading. It was probably one of the many things I picked up when I was afraid my brothers were getting in on something without me. Maps seemed like an outgrowth of our cars; they were just there and our fingers found their way to our destination as if drawn by magnets.

My first purchase over a decade later when I moved to another state was a new Thomas Guide for my new city. And now back in the city of my childhood, I keep local and state maps at arms’ reach.

Sure there is newer technology than spiral-bound maps but there’s security in knowing I can reach behind my seat and grab my own atlas to chart a new course at any moment.

 


This post is part of the 31 Days: Family series. Read the beginning, and see a full index of posts, here.

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sharing Grandma

Everyone loved Grandma. She made friends on planes and in grocery store lines. She never met a stranger.

And though I was used to non-relatives calling her “Aunt Max” or being part of holidays and family occasions, it caught me off guard when one of my friends started calling her “Grandma.”

I was fine sharing her . . . in the form of hugs at church. But to share her title, this was unsettling. Especially because my friend’s own grandmothers were active presences in her life. Why did she need a third?

But even in my selfishness, I knew it meant something amazing. I knew it meant this woman who loved me was so generous in her love she had enough to reach beyond our family and pull in others. Not because they were lacking in family, but because there’s always room for more family to speak words of truth and encouragement.

And as junior high students was there anything my friend and I needed more than a grandma or three who were in our corner?

 


This post is part of the 31 Days: Family series. Read the beginning, and see a full index of posts, here.

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